Are you among those who have committed financial infidelity? Don’t know what it is? I’ll define:
Basically, financial infidelity is where you are less than truthful about your financial situation, or your purchases, no matter how large or small, with your spouse or partner. To clarify further, “less than truthful” means purposely not telling them about how you’re handling money.
Diane McCurdy, author of How Much Is Enough? Balancing Todays Needs with Tomorow’s Retirement Goals, says that “Lies erode trust, compromise the tellers integrity - and can make the person who’s lied to feel really bad.”
You and your spouse fit one of two catagories:
- A natural saver, seeing your freer-spending spouse as childish and irresponsible
- A spender spouse, viewing the saver as a miser and a kill-joy
Either way, both you and your spouse need to work hard to see the others perspective on things. It may be that there needs to be new comprimises. Let the spender learn to curb their shopping adventures some, while the saver loosens up the purse strings a bit.
Much can be done to help you and your spose get back on the same page, but do not expect this to happen over night. It could be good to seek help from a professional counselor. However, if you don’t think that you two need to go this far quite yet, then it may be beneficial to get the book “Financial Infidelity : Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationshop Wrecker“, written by Dr. Bonnie Eaker.
If you want more advice on how other couples are managing their finances, check out the groups Couples & Money and DINKS - Dual Income, No Kids. Have a confession regarding your own financial infidelity? Post here - don’t worry, you can keep it anonymous!
Also, you can check out Clever Dude’s take on this book, as well as his own experiences with his financial life.
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